Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt. How many times have you heard that and how many times have you said that? We speak it like its some truth or magic incantation that will make it truth. In reality, however, that phrase is the farthest thing from the truth. It should be something more like sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will slowly kill you. Proverbs 18:21 says “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Truer words have never been spoken. I mean, I was hit in the jaw when I was like twelve or thirteen. If someone was going to hit me there it might hurt, but I wouldn’t, in my mind, be like "seriously I got hit in that same place when I was twelve". However, words that people teased or gave me a hard time about when I was a child, if those same words or some semblance of them are spoken to me even at 37 they sting just like when I was a kid. They make me feel the same way I did back then. Words that are spoken to us leave a lasting impression, that can last a life time. Now I understand those words to be lies, because I know that I am loved and that I am a creation of a perfect creator, but they still have that sting.
Parents, stop telling your kids that words don’t hurt, because they do. They cut deeply to the very soul of us!!! Instead help them understand that they are special and despite the lies that people use to bully them they are perfect. Don’t say kids will be kids, don’t say be tough, or let it roll off you. Don’t take this lightly. Our kids are being slowly killed and destroyed and yet too many of us act like it’s no big deal and some right of passage we must go through. To parents out there who are parents of bullies please help your children and yourselves understand that these words and actions are bringing death and destruction. Ask yourself "why is my kid acting out like this?" There has to be some need in their lives that is getting overlooked or something wrong that is causing them to destroy others to make themselves feel better.
Ask yourself, "what if it was my child being bullied and destroyed?" I know destroyed seems like a harsh word but if I could think of a harsher one I would. There is no other explanation for a 14 year old Vancouver girl to take her own life. I mean, she was a beautiful little girl who was destroyed by words of hate and destruction and it destroyed her and all those that loved her. We get disgusted when we hear word of hate towards race or gender and we should because those are words of the ignorance. Yet we say it is kids being kids when words of hate are thrown out at schools? That doesn’t cut it! We protest everything yet we don’t protest and fight for the lives of our children. For them to live and go to school in a place where they are loved and feel safe. If you don’t have something nice to say SHUT YOUR MOUTH plain and simple. Be the change in your and your child’s life!!! Save their lives or the lives of those they bully!!!!
To every child out there that feels bullied I want you to know that God loves you and that He is a perfect creator and he created you perfectly. I may not know you but I love you and I know that my six children and I would be blessed to know you. I pray that if you are reading this, and you feel destroyed and you feel like suicide is the only way out, please, please tell someone. Comment on this, email me, fallingup_29@hotmail.com. Just don’t take your precious beautiful life. Don’t let the darkness win, be the change. The words that are spoken can hurt you, but don’t them define and kill you. There is hope, I promise. You have a heavenly father who loves you so much He gave everything just for a chance to be with you!! God bless you!!
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